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How to Develop a Healthy Relationship with Food

Hi friends! Since I have been posting all about health and wellness things this week, I thought I would continue the chat about how I developed a healthy relationship with food. My relationship with food has been a JOURNEY to say the least. I went from starvation, over exercising, bingeing, partying a lot, and now I can say I finally feel balanced. So with that intro, here is how I developed a healthy relationship with food!

The Past

When I was in junior high I developed a really negative self image of myself. I was watching too much YouTube and social media. All that media I was taking in led me to thinking poorly of myself. Every time I got on the app I would just compare, compare, compare. That negative self image eventually led to a couple years of battling anorexia. During that time, I was extremely restrictive with food. Food became the enemy. Every time I would eat I would exercise it off. My natural body systems began to shut down. Luckily I have an amazing mother and she took charge before I could damage myself too much. She forced me to start eating, and mentally helped me to get better.


When coping with my anorexia I switched to veganism. Many times you will find people with eating disorders go that route. The people I watched on YouTube showed me that I could eat as many calories as I wanted without gaining weight. Obviously to someone who had an issue with gaining weight that sounded amazing. I did veganism for over a year, then I got a boyfriend and eventually went back to eating the typical diet.

High School

Getting a boyfriend and being in high school helped a lot. It actually allowed me to gain a better perspective of food. In this post, I won’t mention that other things I struggled with instead, but lets just say I gained a better relationship w/food lol.

With high school and boyfriends often comes breakups. My first heartbreak was devastating to me. Since I was sad and wanted to get back out there I began partying a lot. With extreme partying, I began to eat less in order to gain more of the effects that come along with partying. Again started my routine of bingeing, restricting, bingeing, restricting.


Towards my last year of high school I dove into self development. I read books, listened to podcasts, joined crossfit and started learning how to love myself.

I unfollowed all the people that made me feel bad about myself. Every morning I would say my affirmations in the mirror, this helped to raise my confidence greatly.

I listed some tips on how to gain self-confidence here.

At the End of the Day

At the end of the day it is so important to remember that food is fuel.

For me, I love to eat 80/20. This means I eat clean 80% of the time, and eat so called “bad” food 20% of the time.

Tangible Tips

Here are a few tangible tips to take with you if you struggle with having a healthy relationship with food:

  1. Quit counting calories/macros

-seriously don’t do it. This is the time where you can allow yourself to get in tune with your body. Eat when you are hungry, and stop when you are ful.

2. Take off your fitness tracker

-I have noticed a lot of people only work out to burn calories, rather than working out to make themselves feel good. This is a very negative way to look at things. Take off your fitness tracker and just start doing what feels good.

3. Unfollow people you compare yourself to

-If you find yourself comparing to other people on social media or in real life, you need to unfollow them. You can follow them back after you get in a better place mentally, but until then cut them out.

4. Maybe try and stay off social media all together

-In this day and age everything is on social media. There is so much diet culture stuff, unrealistic body goals, what I eat in a day’s, etc. It is best if you take in the least amount of content as possible with that stuff.

I hope you guys enjoyed this post! Feel free to message me on here if you have any additional questions or need help. I am always here. 🙂



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